I have been intrigued by two books written by Dr. Paul Dobransky (Dr. Paul). The first is the “Power of Female Friendship,” The second is “The Secret Psychology of How we Fall in Love.” Most fascinating is that at the core of both books is the application of the expansion of consciousness to relationships.

The main theme of his writing in both books is his description of the evolution of the brain from Triune Brain Theory. Throughout his book he shows how the three brains play a most significant role in friendship. The most ancient aspect of the brain is the brainstem, (the reptilian brain). This is the center of gender related instincts and is an area where men and women are profoundly different. The midbrain (the mamalian brain) is the center of our emotions, the positive emotion of friendship, and the cortex (the higher brain) is the center of our character. On this he cites, “Character is Destiny.” You win in in the game life when your character and positive emotion have victory in guiding your decisions.

Knowing this infomation gives us, as Dr. Paul says, a “Cool Eye.” This is the observing eye that knows the optimal path for ourselves so we can make wise decisions.

Dr. Paul uses a concise scientific system to describe how the brain works in friendship to create higher levels of happiness and success. The book is fascinating. He integrates complex concepts in a format that is easy to understand and has many examples and stories to illustrate his points.

If you want powerful knowledge to to enhance your female friendships, this book is a must.

Dobransky, Paul & Stamford, L.A. The Power Female Friendship. NY: Plume Books, 2008.